Emotionally Wise - it counts on

Hey! How's going? today I am sharing stuff regarding something I have seen people suffering. A few days ago, I was travelling somewhere in the Delhi metro, and as you are a bit active on social media you know how the inside of the metro is. how much space do you get!! apart from the story moving to the real case. besides me, a girl may be of something 20 she is fighting with her boyfriend over call. so I heard and ignored it. after a few minutes, she started crying, to comfort her I asked if she needed water. she took my water bottle, sipped some, and started explaining how his boyfriend had become unromantic. I stayed silent because I was blank. what to say to her in this situation. After listening to the complete story I got the point that the guy she was in a relationship with was not unromantic. he is the emotionally unavailable one; I know many of us aren't aware of this but this is a condition everyone should be aware of. sometimes attraction or infatuation leads to liking someone. when it's sounded love, we expect care, understanding and intimacy; but never emotional availability. and then we cry about a hundred things.

you can fake your care for someone who is crying, you can fake that you understand her situation, but you can't fake emotional availability. doesn't matter in which situation she is; we all can get that in seconds. the capability to identify and honour needs is not easy; it takes a lot of self-worth to choose someone over them. when someone is not ready to be committed with you, gets intimate when he wants, gets defensive on very silly topics, empathize with your feelings, not available when you need them. please please please keep in mind it's not mood swings it's disrespect. disrespect to your feelings, your body, your existence in their life.

okay so? Have you ever caught yourself not being able to share something serious with your best friend or mate despite having complete trust? yes that particular inability or unwillingness to share your emotions with someone is emotionally unavailable. in case you are sharing your things with someone unwilling or unable to grasp your view? will he ever value your words? no right. good looks, sociability, and bank balance won't work when will return as hell depressed and won't find someone to rant about your day. what if your handsome modern man or girl won't listen to you because it's unnecessary. I understand money is important but if you know how to earn it then please find someone who can fulfil your emotional needs. how will you spend your whole life keeping these unwanted daily rants inside you! 

we have come across the same dumbness often? right? we are no different from emotional fools. expecting someone to be emotionally available for me is a pre-requisite, not a wish. you need to understand it. you're making it a wish and that's what makes us sick. we expect someone to be emotionally available for us. but why do we ask for it, is the solution for not asking anyone to be available for you. you can leave them at the moment. no history can resolve the future.

when you grow up with lots of responsibilities; or a bit fewer friends you just don't know how to show your emotions correctly and that's why you become vulnerable while hiding your emotions. you don't learn how to show negative emotions. how to deal with a rejection or how to move on from disrespect. a pinch of care works like a magnet for you; nevertheless, it may destroy your value. degrading your standards. you don't know when you settle for less, you make that your limit. people will know that they will listen to you for minutes and you will stand as a bridge for them. Since an emotionally inaccessible person isn't relaxed about exploring their own feelings, they might not be able to attach to other people's emotional requirements, either. so it's all because of us. nothing else.

hookups are good to go but to whom it may concern please take my words. 

Never ever lose the one who is emotionally always available to take care of you. Maybe some people will ask you if you had food or not, but few will notice why you had less or more on your plate today. That silly little thing matters. Today it may sound weird to you, but in the long term, you will realize why despite being close to mothers we miss our fathers on vacation.

just a reminder; appreciation goes a long way but support is the way to live.