A True Valentine's Day

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Hope you're doing well; 2024 Jan isn't wasted and you're ready for feb. today I'll be sharing a snippet of yesterday. Okay so we were having pastries, me and two of my friends. so, one of them is in relationship and another one is single as me. So, the topic moved to "Valentine's Day; how's your valentine's day going? " The one is relationship started sharing her romantic surprises, some girly talks about the kiss, hug, and the quarrel about her favorite chocolate. why he didn't get her favorite chocolate was the issue, no wonder my single friend started telling; "No one would ever love her". I astonishedly asked why not? and she told me, her body color isn't fine as everyone, she isn't attractive enough with a desired body structure and so on. you know for a moment i was stuck how someone can judge herself so bad and expect others to be fair at her? when you're accepting yourself; how someone can accept you? 

As when her self-hate talk ended, the one is relationship started sharing her insecurities. and the topic moved from Valentine's Day to insecure discussion of self-hate. i just can't process it. i was sitting idle, listening to them; saw a couple across. i changed the topic, told them to watch the couple. and as expected my single friend started saying "The girl is black than me; huh how the boy liked her." So, the reason I'm sharing this is. How the self-doubt, insecurities, body negativity is cursing our Lifes. No, I'm not going to narrate body positivity or self-confidence. its naturally boring if you don't know how to appreciate with what you have. i have seen people complaining a good food for a bit less salt, and i have seen people appreciating burnt food, because it's feeding their hunger. Value is what we give, it's not destined, remarked, or regulated. its within us.

As I sit down to pen this letter, my heart overflows with love and admiration for the incredible person that you are. Today, I want to express the deep affection and appreciation I have for the everyone who deserves it the most—yourself.

From the moment you open your eyes in the morning until the time you close them at night, your journey is a testament to strength, resilience, and unwavering beauty. You are managing being a child to your parents, a sibling, a Neighbour, a professional, a lover and at last you. isn't that tough? same actor doing different characters; its naturally going to be tough. Pause, appreciate yourself for your eagerness to manage all the characters. I want you to know that you are a masterpiece, a work of art sculpted by the hands of time and experience. Every scar, every triumph, every laugh, and every tear has contributed to the canvas of your existence, creating a portrait of a truly extraordinary individual. In the quiet moments when self-doubt creeps in, remember that you are deserving of love and kindness man! you deserve everything you're working for. Your quirks and imperfections are what make you unique and utterly enchanting. You ever heard Africans complaining about their black skin or wide body? any Americans about their fair sensitive skin? any Chinese or Japanese about their eyes or body structure? No, they have accepted it. If half of population is embracing themselves then why can't you? oh now don't compare yourself with miss universe; just kidding. Embrace them with open arms, for they are the brushstrokes that paint the mural of your authentic self. Your smile, oh, how it lights up the darkest corners of your soul. Cherish the curve of your lips, the warmth in your eyes, and the radiance that emanates from within. You have the power to brighten the world around you simply by being true to the extraordinary person you are. In the times when life feels like a storm, I want you to seek solace in the shelter of your own love. Embrace the beauty in your flaws, for they are the steppingstones to growth. Your journey is a story of self-discovery, and each chapter is a testament to your courage and resilience. Take a moment to reflect on the countless victories you've achieved, both big and small. Celebrate the love you've given to others, and most importantly, revel in the love you've gifted to yourself. You are deserving of all the affection, care, and admiration that you willingly bestow upon those you hold dear.

As you read these words, I hope you feel a warmth in your heart—a gentle reminder that you are cherished, cherished by the one person who knows you best—yourself. Anyone's parameter of perfection won't define you. No one deserves you unwillingly who is not aware of your true self. Love yourself unconditionally, for in doing so, you create a love that is boundless, unwavering, and eternally beautiful.

Yeah, be your own valentine this year. Go on a solo Date, visit a new place, post self-portraits. Love and respect yourself and your parents for shaping you in this amazing way. With all the love in my heart. Virtual Hugs!