Not just a Phase

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Somewhere in a conversation, someone mentioned "yeah he had anxiety" and in a moment sipping the tea one of the groups commented "Aaj kal toh sabko hai". He tried explaining his point how the depressive reels are going viral now a days. It’s all fake and random. For an instance I didn't have any to justify my disagreement. I stayed silent. But till then I was just thinking how silly people are still not aware of such a serious thing. I agree social media is gas lighting but isn't there enough awareness now? At least in a micro level people are aware of the term "mental health". They are ready to listen to other people with empathy. They are ready to help someone who needs. Rest some people who follow scepticism, please leave respectfully. "Why the older generation haven't all these" , "He is just being lazy, dramatic"; I just have single answer the older generation was not living in nuclear family, they were not struggling for academic excellence, we can't live in this generation with their mind set. Summing up, we can ideally follow them, but can't avoid the situation In front of us.

People often consider breakup, moving on, healing, depression, anxiety is all about relationships with your partner; but they need to understand that it can be relationship with parent, siblings, friends, colleagues, and family too. A bad, toxic, energy draining relationship isn't always with partners. It's about relationship with their parents, feuds with their siblings, betrayal from their friends, issue with their colleagues and even academic problems now a days too. Not everything you know, you see, you hear is the truth, it's so much more. What you know, see, hear is what the person allowing you. Before considering a breakup, depression, anxiety as your viral social media hashtags; understand at least they are now aware of their mental state. According to global data around 5% of population is struggling to live. 1 in 100 death is suicide. "You won't understand the cost of free air until you're in hospital bed". It's no joke.

It's not just a phase.

It's the letting go of something essential.

It's the way the incident took place, they never imagined.

It's the shattered dream, they were weaving.

It's the guilt that don't let them rest.

It's the disaster accepting the reality.

It's the hit in their self-confidence to move on.

It's the hesitation if they could ever make it happen again.

It's the desire to be heard, understood, loved not judged.

It's the inquisitive of worthiness.

It's the struggle to continue.

It's the pain, they can’t explain.

People aren't projects to work on with priority. Be nice to them because it may be just a phase for you but not just a phase for them. It’s the entire mountain they are carrying, what seems a pebble to you. Stop making them feel if they need too much. Our sensitivity is different so the hurts too. It takes small efforts to be kind. The way we are worried of our physical health; mental health goes unnoticed. It starts with a conversation about the different ways we show, and they want to receive love and support. Every one of us deserves to be heard, cared, understood and loved.